I’m not going to spend too much time here, because each word I write comes between you and the photos of this fantastic wedding for a few hundredths of a second. But a lot of people ask my advice for how to have a good wedding, and my advice is the same for a good relationship: If you’re having fun, most of the other stuff falls into place. This doesn’t mean that planning isn’t important — it’s not really so much fun to have a wedding in a field during a thunderstorm because you didn’t have a good plan — but it’s too easy to forget that having fun together comes first.
So yes, it’s pretty great that Crista and Robert chose the beautiful Onteora Mountain House for their wedding, and that the weather — while chilly — allowed everyone to enjoy the mountain views. It doesn’t hurt that Crista and Robert are basically action heroes, with Robert trained in every sort of theatrical movement and Crista … well, none of Crista’s bridesmaids even batted an eye when she started walking around on her hands. But what matters is how much fun everyone had together, how deep and boisterous and joyful the connections, from streaming tears to bendy backs on the dance floor. And it’s what we all remember.
Just as importantly, I remember how much fun I had in my own partnership, shooting this with the incredible Tatiana Breslow. I will never get over the fact that the woman I fell so deeply in love with happens to also be my favorite shooting partner out of everyone I’ve worked with, that our eyes and our choices are so in sync. We are going to be merging not only our lives but also our businesses, and I am so excited for this future on every level, and to show the world what we can do together. It’s going to be fun.
Merry Christmas everyone! What a year it’s been.
I feel blessed in the most important way: I am happy, through and through. For years I have been so lucky to have found a job that I love, that I want to do until my body can’t take it anymore, that allows me creative expression and autonomy and keeps my brain working. I know what it’s like to not have a creative and professional outlet you care about, and even though it’s hard work, it is incredibly freeing.
And now, even more so, I have that in my own life. I have been lucky my whole life, but whenever I am with Tatiana I *feel* lucky, down to my core.I have found exactly where I want to be for the rest of my life. I know what it’s like to not have this, to search and yearn, and it’s the greatest gift I could imagine.
My life is a life — it’s not all roses and sunshine. I had dental surgery this week and can barely eat delicious Christmas food. We’re still working at our computers most of this week etc. etc. But that stuff doesn’t matter. I am happy, and feel so lucky to be happy. I wish the same for every one of you.
Of course, I wouldn’t mind taking some pictures of your happiness along the way.
Thank you davina + daniel for capturing our happiness even in pitch darkness.
The best way to drive home the importance of every aspect of a wedding is to plan one yourself. Next to that, photograph a wedding for a family you are connected to. With Ayelet and Keston’s wedding, I found both of these worlds colliding. Not only did I get to photograph this wedding with Tatiana Breslow, the talented photographer and extraordinary person I am planning to spend the rest of my life with, but Ayelet is the sister of one of Tatiana’s best friends, Inbal Sivan, another extremely talented wedding photographer (and also our neighbor).
In some ways the pressure was on — again we were working to the standards of wedding photographer clients, and we wanted to do the best we can for these wonderful people and a family that was so kind to us … but that sort of pressure is always on. Instead, by being such an integrated part of this wedding day, and with the wedding itself being so intimate, we felt like guests happily documenting the story before us. After all, not only were we the wedding photographers, but our apartment was the getting ready space, and we even stepped in for a bit as impromptu DJs at the end of the night. Being able to see weddings from the inside-out is a refreshing experience, and reminds us again how lucky we are to tell stories of emotion and lasting importance, and to fill our days with people like these. Congratulations Ayelet and Keston.